Hey SAT– You Suck!

by | Nov 27, 2018 | Parenting, Teenagers | 3 comments

Yes, Scholastic Aptitude Test, I’m talking to you.  It’s time someone spoke the truth and put you in your place.  As the parent of a high school senior, I’m giving you a piece of my mind. I was taught to never use the word “hate”. We could say dislike, detest or loathe but hate wasn’t okay.   For me to let the word “hate” slip between my lips, I really must feel strongly and passionately about something.  I only use it on rare occasions and only if I truly mean it. That time is now.

I hate you.

I hate what you stand for.  I hate how much pressure you put on our teenagers. I hate how kids believe their future rides on a three-hour test. I hate that you have so much power over one’s senior year in high school.  I hate that you make parents crazy with fret awaiting their kids test scores. I hate that when our kids try their best, we are forced to determine if their best was “good enough” to get them to where they want to go.  I hate how people assume a good SAT score sets you up for a successful life. I hate that words like analogy, algebraic concepts, reading comprehension, graphs and metrics cause so much stress (and unneeded acne!) in the lives of teenagers. Please, give them a break.

I hate that you are a timed test which only adds more pressure.  I hate that you give boring reading passages and have test-takers write about absurd subjects that most teenagers could care less about. I hate that amazing young people who don’t do well often feel ashamed by their score and believe that they are not very smart.  I hate that you think one’s ability to determine if a sentence is grammatically correct somehow makes them smarter than someone else.  Get with the times, we have spell-check on our laptops.  Whether or not my child knows where to place a comma, or a semi-colon has no weight on their intelligence.  Please, give me a break.

You are like a bad April’s Fools joke that never ends.  Not allowing teenagers to go to the bathroom until they have a scheduled break?  What if they have a Venti Starbucks before they come into the test? Imagine trying to hold your pee for 45 minutes and answer critical reading questions about The Great Flood of 1862.  What about the kid who scores 1560 (only 40 points less than perfect) and then gets DENIED at their dream school?  I couldn’t get a 1560 if I had my laptop open and sat next to a math professor.  You tease teens into thinking they have a great score only to be slapped in the face with a “Thanks but no thanks” from a college that they were prepared to shell out $50,000 a year to attend.  You are an evil prankster.  SAT could stand for Sorry (you’re not) All That.

And why the trick questions? Aren’t we being tricked enough paying to take this ridiculous test? Do we really hate our teenagers so much that we punish them by making them wake up at 7am on a Saturday morning to go sit in an uncomfortable chair for three hours answering questions about real life things such as  “If Mary had a lemonade stand, solve for X to decide how much lemonade she sold if she used this much lemonade mix (3x3 +2t9).” Shouldn’t the correct answer be “Why is Mary selling lemonade if she’s brilliant enough to solve that equation”. Maybe SAT means Stupid Anti-aptitude Test.

Let’s get real.  You are only a snap shot of who my student is. You’re missing the bigger picture.  You don’t see the hard worker he is or the self-discipline I see sitting at the dining room table grinding away on school nights. You don’t see the rock-solid determination that drives his choices. You don’t see how he treats other people or the leader he is at school.  You don’t see how he has served his community or how he would be an asset to any university.  You don’t see how he engages with the world around him or how he problem solves real life issues.  You don’t see his academic capabilities or the possibilities to make a difference in the world. You are not an accurate representation of who he is.

Honestly, I don’t think you measure intelligence at all… just how fast you can work and how good you are at taking a test.  You don’t test brain power, you test endurance.  You don’t test aptitude, you test memorization and replication.  You test useless content that will never be used in college, or even life.  You don’t measure grit, resourcefulness, work-ethic, character or will-power–bigger factors in determining one’s success in life than a random three-hour test. 

If I’m representing all students, I think you are a societal issue.  Students of privilege have more advantages and resources available than those from impoverished areas.  You are not a “leveler” of playing fields, quite the opposite. You aren’t fair across the board.  Our world is a beautiful melting pot and you do nothing to represent the beauty of diversity and the richness of difference that exists in our human family.

Professionally speaking you cause worry, panic, distress, frustration, disappointment and depression.  You cause feelings of self-doubt, worthlessness, incompetency, and fear    You are a therapist’s worst nightmare.  SAT…Sick And Twisted.

Let me qualify- this has nothing to do with my son or his test score- he did fine. It has everything to do with the process and the havoc you wreck on the lives of teenagers. Our high schoolers don’t need any more stress in their lives. You add unnecessary anxiety to overwhelmed and tired young people.  Between the ridiculous amount of work required for AP classes to the time consuming extra-curricular activities, our teens are stressed to the max. And more importantly, they are exhausted.  But they never feel like they can rest because you are always looming.  You are like a dark cloud that hovers over their high school experience and frankly, I think you suck. SAT stands for Satan Approved Torture.

Let’s stop making teenagers jump through your unreasonable hoop trying to play the admissions game.  Instead of offering multiple choice tests to determine someone’s potential in college, how about allowing them to write an essay about who they are, where they come from, what they are passionate about and what they can offer to make the world a better place? How about taking more merit in an interview, their GPA and what their teachers say about them as students and their classroom work ethic? How about considering the bigger picture of them as a person and a student than just some goofy score than says nothing about one’s potential, intellectual capacity or future success in college? How about freeing up the time used to cram and study for your test and allowing students to volunteer at a senior center to hear about history first hand, or write for their school newspaper to work on their writing skills, or get a job to put their math and communication skills to practice? How about allowing them to put down their SAT prep books and pick up a book to read for pleasure? How about reminding our teenagers that your silly test means nothing in the big path of their life—they have control of the direction and the projection on how far they will travel based on how hard they work and how bad they want to succeed.

I’m done with you. You are irrelevant to me.  My kid is worth more than a number.  I’m telling him to unfriend you and block all contact because you are a bully. You make young people believe they are less than they are. You humiliate and intimidate high schoolers.  You create fear and anxiety in them.  You cause them to question themselves and lose hope.  You trick, tease and stigmatize kids who are just trying to do their best. Shame on you.

SAT, your day has past. You are no longer needed or wanted. You are old and antiquated. You need to go away.  Simply put, you are a Stupid Ass Test.

Sick And Tired,

A Loving Parent


  1. Lori Maier

    Amen!!! I absolutely agree with you 100% as a parent and as a teacher. My students and sons have stressed over the SAT for way too many hours and lost valuable time in their lives where they could be more productive and helpful in their communities and developing more useful skills in life.

  2. Danette Mora

    You should send this to The College Board! Thank you! So well put!

  3. Lannette

    Our country is losing valuable insight into our future leaders of the world by equating them with the robotic approach to the numbers game of the standardized testing circus. The will and drive to learn is lost in the attainment of perfection or constant betterment of that score. When you compare our approach to college education to Europe, we are missing the mark on individual development and enhancement of their love for learning. Our poor kids are at an all time high when it comes to anxiety and stress. They are adulting beyond measure with respect to testing and choosing majors. They should be more focused on a personal growth mindset. They are still teens that have underdeveloped frontal lobes, which heightens their emotional response to this testing stress.
    I loved your blog on SAT. I am a firm believer that all of this hooplah over going away to college is robbing our kids of their time as teenagers. Doing your best and enjoying the well rounded life of high school is my aporoach


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